Day 183 Question 183

Day 183 Question 183:

Do Diets Work? What does it take to accept and love oneself to the fullest?

People may read the question and not quite see how they go hand in hand.  Last night I watched a documentary called America the Beautiful 2: The Thin Ammendments.  Yes, I know it is shocking to here I watched a documentary…hahaha.  The documentary dealt with so many issues in regard to body image and health and whether or not diets really do work.  The entire film enlightened me in so many ways but it also tugged at my heart strings because so many things hit so close to home.  It is not an easy thing to admit but I am obsessed with my body and the way I look.  I try to block it from my mind but it seems to creep its way back in at different times throughout every single day.  Don’t get me wrong, my mind and body are in a much stronger and healthier place than they ever have been but the problem has not gone away…I don’t believe it ever will.

We are now living in a society where people have no idea what it means to be beautiful.  It is unfortunate but we live in a society in which a majority of us learn that beauty equates to being thin.  Success comes with being thin.  People are only going to take you serious or be attracted to you if you are thin.  I am not saying this is right and I am not saying these are the thoughts of ALL but there is a lot of truth behind what I say.  We are becoming lost as a society because so many people are focusing on being thin as opposed to being healthy…both men and women alike.  The concept of beauty has become so warped because it has become an external thing.  I have always viewed beauty as something that comes within….that is just me though.  Remember, these are my thoughts and opinions….I am not throwing out these words stating I am absolutely right.  I guess watching this documentary brought me to a place that really made me evaluate how I truly feel about myself.  I do love so many things about me.  I love my passion and my drive.  I love my eagerness to keep learning and the creativity that runs throughout my veins every single day.  I love the friends in my life and the blessing of having an incredible family.  I love that I am able to be compassionate and empathetic at the same time because I realize the world is much bigger outside of myself.  With all of this love still comes this nonstop evaluation of my body and the way I look.  As much as I want to love myself regardless of the imperfections in my body, I have a very hard time being able to do so.  I can relate to people with anorexia and bulimia because there is always something inside of you that makes you obsessed with food (whether it is in a negative way or not) and how it is going to affect your body.  I am an extremely strong person and the hurdles I have overcome are gigantic but this is a hurdle I have struggled with since I was a very young girl and I still feel like I am trying to paw my way to get over it but I keep slipping.  Something seems to always set me back and I know that I am the one that chooses my path but it does not make it easy to live in a world full of media images that seem to brainwash us into believing what “real” beauty is and to live in a society where men seem to want the “hot” girl and by ‘hot” I mean the girl with the rockin body (no not all men….I admit that to be a generalized statement).

There is such a divide between being thing and being healthy but as a society we are unable to see it (a lot of us not all of us).  In this documentary, several members/employees of the National Health Department decided to lower the national BMI number.  In case you didn’t know, BMI stands for Body Mass Index and according to this scale, most people should fall into a 25% range in order to be considered healthy.  This number went from 28% to 25% because of a vote done by these members of the Health Department.  What was most interesting about this, is that 4 (if not more) were also board members for the giant diet chain known as Weight Watchers.  Do you not see the conflict of interest there?  Do you think that there vote to lower the BMI rate had anything to do with the eagerness to make more sales for Weight Watchers.  According to the government standard, Tom Cruise, Sylvester Stallone, and Mel Gibson are technically obese. So are sluggers Sammy Sosa and Barry Bonds, boxer Mike Tyson, quarterback Donovan McNabb, and wrestling superstar The Rock. And if politics is your thing, it turns out that California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger—a bodybuilding legend—is obese, too.  What kind of message is this sending?????

This blog entry is not meant to be a big bitchfest and I am not a hater toward skinny women.  Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.  I have no plenty of thin women that have hated their bodies or have been insecure because of “flaws”.  I guess I just believe we are living in a society where it is becoming harder and harder to love oneself no matter what you look like.  We are living in a society where diet products are being pushed at us around every corner.  The pharmaceutical world is insane which makes me question the morality of doctors and how honest they are really.  If you can’t trust a licensed, medical professional then who can you trust???  In this documentary, the film-maker is a large man.  He is tall and yes it is obvious he is overweight.  He is completely aware of this.  He is (I would guess) in his mid to late 50’s…maybe a little older.  He goes to visit a doctor after not seeing one in many years to get a full check-up/physical.  He gets many tests done to find that he has high blood pressure and a condition that has made his heartbeat irregular.  The doctor told him that the ONLY way to fix these problems would be to go on a blood thinner and a blood pressure medication.  The medications had a side effect of erectile dysfunction which made this a very unappealing option to this man. Over the course of 2 months, he checked out various diet methods and saw nutritionist and trainers.  He tried the raw vegan diet, weight watchers, juice fasts, etc.  All of these “diets” made him lose weight then immediately put it back on and then some.  The ONLY thing that worked was eating healthier and in moderation and adding more physical activity to his daily routines (neither of these things being excessive).  He did not give up everything and he did not make DRASTIC changes.  Two months after his initial visit with the doctor he returned for a follow-up.  All of the same tests were performed to find that his blood pressure decreased to 118/55 and he no longer had the irregular heartbeat.  Remember, the doctor told him the ONLY way to fix either of these problems would be medication.  Does it not frighten you to think about how many pills are being pushed on people day in and day out just to make a quick buck when the simple solution is to make slight changes in eating and exercise habits.  Now don’t get me wrong…I know it is not that easy for EVERYONE…but in this documentary it is stated more than once that there is “No money in prevention” which says to me that drug companies and diet fad companies are almost intentionally TRYING to make people fat just to make money….if that isn’t twisted then I don’t know what is.  I think there has been so much of my life that has been consumed by these things that it is really hard to just flip the switch and just embrace me for me…imperfections and all.  It is hard to look in the mirror and accept 100% what my body looks like (without making a bunch of criticisms in my head).  It is hard to date because in the back of my mind I am thinking about what the other person is thinking about my body.  It gets very exhausting after a while.  I had one ex-boyfriend (he was an alcoholic and I should have never been with him-hindsight is 20/20) that started a fight with me and said, “You are just pissed because I don’t want to fuck your fat ass anymore.”  He later told me that I could speak to him again when I lost 70 or 80lbs.  Another guy several years back asked me if I ever considered gastric bypass surgery (I was heavy but not that heavy).  The last guy I dated (and mind you when we dated I was already 65lbs lighter than I was a year ago) said that he could see becoming obsessed with me if I reached the goal weight that I was always talking about.  Every single one of these things did damage to me.  Every comment that anyone made throughout my life about my weight broke me just a little bit.  Until now I never believed I was beautiful
because of all of these things and I never felt like I was good enough.  I realize that none of these guys were the right ones for me but regardless of that…words hurt….no matter who they come from!  When a person is constantly having a self-degrading battle in their own head about their weight and then they are insulted or reminded by someone else about it, it just is a huge blog to your self-esteem.  You lose that sense of anything being worth it anymore because you feel as if society is telling you that you will never measure up.

This is the first time in my life that I have lost weight in a healthy manner and kept the weight off for a significant amount of time.  I would like to lose about 30 more pounds but I am not doing anything extreme to do that.  I am healthy now and will continue to strive to be even healthier.  I won’t lie and say that it hasn’t been a struggle.  Every single day it has been a struggle.  I feel like one of the lucky ones though because I have strengthened my mental state over time.  I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone and I have refused to give up.  I have MADE myself stop loathing myself and every single day I remind myself of all of the things that make me valuable to this world.  Not every day is wonderful and some days I fall into that funk that makes me just want to stop trying but I won’t….I CAN’T!  There are many people in this world though that don’t have this same strength (not to brag at all) because society around them is telling them that they have no chance to succeed and they will never change…unless you do something extreme.  When you hear something enough times you start to believe it…trust me!  This is not a “Woe is Me” situation….this is truth….this is what I have felt throughout many years of my life and I know the struggles that some other people in the world go through are WAY worse than mine.  I write these words to remind people that beauty if not about the outer package.  I write this to the people (whether skinny or heavy) that have struggled with their bodies to tell them that whether I know them or not, I KNOW that they are beautiful!  The reason I want to go into the Human Services field is because the thought of others experiencing emotional pain and feeling unworthy breaks my heart.  I want to offer my words to others and hopefully help them change the way they see themselves.  I believe EVERYONE has the potential for success if they just have the right frame of mind.

If you get a chance to check out the documentary I definitely recommend it….it is an eye-opener for sure.

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9 Responses to Day 183 Question 183

  1. I agree with your article. I was the biggest I have ever been on my wedding day, so I know that love comes no matter the size, but after divorce i still feel like will someone ever love me at this size!! I have lost almost 40 pds since nov2011 but I have to keep in mind Im doing this for me!! It’s very hard to continue this but I pray that I can continue to do this only for me!! *ALIX*

  2. rich says:

    “diets” don’t work. food plans – in conjunction with exercise – even just walking – is what works.

  3. jimmydevious says:

    While I do think there is generally pressure on people to be only thin, I think too the concept extends WAY beyond just thiness. Today you are expected to conform to one preset “template” that the mass-media puts out there in the way you dress, what you are “allowed” to eat, what words you can “acceptibly” say in public, what kind of vehicles are “okay” to drive, what genres are profitible to write in if you’re a writer, and who makes you “truly enlightened” if you vote for them. It’s not just body image that is under assault, it’s the very idea of being an individual that is being squelched in today’s modern culture.

    (What? I wrote something SERIOUS for a change?? No way! 😉 )

    Great post! 🙂

  4. eyes Of Odysseus says:

    i am glad that you are recognizing your true beauty regardless of “size”. theres immeasurable power in acceptance/love lf the , and also in a moderated approach to healthy, sustainable weightloss. congrats on both. i also recommend the doc. “fat, sick, and nearly dead” its avail on netflix and is a real game changer!

  5. eyes Of Odysseus says:

    sorry bout typos. its supposed to say “immeasurable power in acceptance/love of the self”. darn autocorrect

  6. chris9911 says:

    i’m actually trying to figure out a way to have my wife put on some weight, and stop her from working out…lol

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