Day 182 Question 182:
What is something/some things that would make you lose complete respect for someone?
I am a pretty open-minded person when it comes to many topics. I TRY to see the good in people and give them the benefit of the doubt when I can. However, there is one thing that will make me lose ALL respect for someone and that is bad parenting. Now, I realize I am not a parent and I realize as a parent sometimes you have to go into survival mode (i.e. giving in to your kids screaming for something to get them to be quiet in a store). Parenting does not come with a manual and of course every situation is different.
What absolutely burns me is parents that seem to not change at all when they have children. I have witnessed FAR TOO MANY parents that go out night after night partying while leaving their children with babysitters or even worse the child’s grandparents (which I can’t wrap my brain around why they would agree to this). I am not a parent but I can’t help but think that the moment I found out that I was pregnant that my entire life would change because from that moment on I would responsible for another human life. I completely understand that even parents need freedom from time to time and they should be allowed to have fun sometimes but some people take it to extremes and I just can’t understand how that happens. Parents are the main role models for their children. At young ages, no matter what, children are going to look to you for answers and to figure out the rights and wrongs in life. Maybe I am naïve or ignorant in some ways but I just don’t understand how a parent can believe his/her life is more important than his/her child and still just do whatever they want whenever they want with no concern for the child (that is just me though). I have met so many men in passing and in the dating world that have children that hardly ever see them and they don’t seem phased by it. I can’t understand that in any way whatsoever. A part of you is out there in the world and so many people seem so unaffected by that. If you take the chance of sleeping with someone then you know that there is a possibility of a pregnancy being a result….take responsibility. Parenthood should change people for the better but unfortunately we see that in many cases it does not. I have no respect for deadbeat parents. I believe they are ruining their children…they are relying on everyone else to raise them and that is SO unfair to the child. I am beyond lucky to have grown up with two extremely loving and supportive parents. It absolutely breaks my heart to see children that are treated like they are non-existent or not at all important….to see parents scream at their children endlessly instead of explaining to them why their actions are wrong.
I could go on and on telling stories of incidences of bad parenting that I have witnessed. I was a Parent Educator for a couple of year and the amount of children I wish I could have taken home to care for was endless. Children are these little innocent people that deserve a fair shot and I am sickened by the number of people in this world that are parents that have no business being parents. I believe it must be a psychological thing and I know I am different from a lot of people. I strongly believe in change and continually bettering myself….and if I were to have a child I would work even harder to change for the better continually because life is no longer just about me. Again, some people might think that I really don’t have a say on this topic whatsoever because I am not a parent but that is their opinion. My opinion is that if I have to be in the same room with horrible parents then I do have a say. If I am affected in any way whatsoever because of ignorant or poor parenting then my opinions certainly do matter. Selfishness will make me lose all respect for you as well. Even as a single person I realize that life is not all about me….life is about giving back whenever and wherever I can. I am a role model and an example no matter if I choose to be or not.
I look at children and I love their innocence and I love the look they get when they are so eager to learn and to just be talked to. I love their ability to love so naturally with no questions asked. Childhood is over at the blink of an eye and this is the time that children should truly be able to cherish. ALL parents should show their children unconditional love day in and day out so they are able to pass it on to those around them. Children should not have to question themselves because of their parents….they should not have to live in fear….they should not be confused about the difference between right and wrong (in a very general sense I mean). For all of the parents out there that seem to have better things to do than raise their children, I ask you what it feels like to be so selfish?