Day 142 Question 142:
What do you need to vent about?
I find it funny that so many women get shit for going after the “bad boy” when I was just told by a guy, “we couldn’t be together because you are too nice and I am a rough guy.” Ugh, sometimes I think my life is a movie…the number of times I say to myself, “Really???” in a day is sometimes far too many to count. The conversation continued and he told me that he is just emotionally spent and he is just going to have sex right now. That was followed up by, “I am a relationship guy though.” I told him it really sounded like it. This is the reason the whole dating game is nothing but a joke to me. People say what they want but when they have it right in front of them they will haul ass in the other direction as fast as possible.
I guess today has just been one of those days where I have felt like I have heard the dumbest of the dumb things. We all have choices in life and we have the choice to better our lives all of the time but some people just choose to either sit stagnant or just make up excuse after excuse and do stupid action after stupid action. I stay positive as often as possible but sometimes I just want to shake certain people and tell them to snap out of it. I know it is not my life…it is theirs….but our worlds collide so therefore I have an opinion. I mean come on…I have an opinion about everything ;0). Apparently I just have that face or that voice that makes people want to spill all of their shit to me. People that hardly know me will even just unleash the entire saga of their lives within the first 10 minutes of meeting me. I really try to stay positive as much as humanly possible and even when I feel irritation or annoyance I just keep it to myself and let it pass. I don’t see any point in telling people how I feel about them in the moment if it is not going to be beneficial. I did feel the need to vent though….and I felt like this was the perfect venue. I am sure I am sounding hypocritical by saying I focusing on being positive but I am going on a bitchfest…hahahaha. Everyone has those moments and those days though and I am entitled to mine every once in a while.
I guess lately I have just encountered so many people in different settings that have exuded constant negativity and have bitched and moaned about things (that I see) that are completely controllable. Hearing this negativity wears on a person after a while. I want to be a support system for someone but if they are going to do absolutely nothing to fix their situation or change then I just have to gracefully bow out. It becomes far too frustrating for me. The guy I mentioned above has complete control over his situation and he could meet a nice girl and have a good life (and mind you he has a young child) but instead he has decided to be a total douchebag and just sleep around….yet will still bitch about how women think they are so perfect and how women are the enemy. Well, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that with an attitude like that then no you will not have a successful relationship….if you put negativity out there expect it to come back to you tenfold. It is once again that entire victim mentality…people allow their pasts to control them and in the meantime everyone around them has to suffer because they must constantly hear about how awful life is and how life is so unfair and how no one is honest or can’t be trusted. CHANGE YOUR SITUATION AND YOUR MINDSET….IT REALLY IS THAT EASY!!!! I have come to realize though that people thrive on drama and no matter how much encouragement or positive words they receive from people they are still going to make excuses and feel sorry for themselves. It really is quite sad.
I feel guilty about venting. I find it counterproductive. Focusing on the positive is always my goal. I guess I just had felt overwhelmed and needed to get these thoughts and feelings out of my system so I could move forward. I apologize to those reading for being negative and having to listen to my rant. I really shouldn’t even be whining about any of this because by no means am I perfect and I have made plenty of mistakes in my life. I guess I just needed a moment to unleash. I am just the type of person that has a hard time letting people go or not listening to people…but sometimes when everything is so negative all of the time I feel overwhelmed and I am not confrontational so it will build up. To my readers I thank you for reading this complete bitch fest that I guess was much needed. From here on…positive thoughts and reflective opinions. So much love!!!