Day 99 Question 99

Day 99 Question 99:

Are you happy?

I am one day away from entry 100.  Honestly, I was unsure if I would get this far but my determination has proven me wrong.  I have come to realize lately that I really am a person filled with great determination and strength.  I could not say that in the past.  Last night I was at the gym and I walked past some mirrors to do some weight training after I did my cardio.  I glanced at myself in the mirror and what I felt was something I have not felt in who knows long.  I did not detest what I saw.  I was actually very proud of myself because my strength and determination have made me proud…proud to see results from the hard work I have put in.  I do not looooove my body but most women don’t and most women will find flaws but I love this person I have become.  I feel like it has taken me quite a while to get here but I also think that it was supposed to.  I believe I was supposed to walk this rocky road to get to this place of contentment and self-love.  The answers were always there but I needed the journey in order to keep growing.  Right now I am the happiest in my life that I believe I have ever been.  I have no recollection of ever feeling this sort of euphoria and this natural state of peace.  It is truly amazing.  I am reaching goals that I once doubted myself on.  I am keeping my mind sharp by diving into books, documentaries, films…LIFE!!!  I ask a lot of questions nowadays…probably to the point of being annoying.  I find life and humanity so fascinating and there is .so much I want to do.  I may not accomplish everything in my years in this life but I know I will surely accomplish a lot.

There are so many lessons I have taken from this life.  I have found my likes and dislikes and I have found my voice.  I no longer bow down to the majority.  I hold my own when necessary with the ability to use tact and respect.  I have found my loves.  I have been finding myself…my strength…my happiness.  This is a beautiful gift to receive and I could only hope that everyone in this world were to be able to experience this kind of happiness.  It seems so natural and so deserving.  Everyone has this beauty and all of these gifts within themselves but some people never let them bubble up to the surface.  I was one of those people for a very long time because I was a puppet to society…I was allowing those that I thought had the power to control me.  Once I learned, accepted that the only person that controls my life is me…everything changed.

Yesterday while at the gym I read an article/piece titled: I Have Learned…  I wanted to share this piece in hopes that many of you have learned a lot of the same things and allow everyone the opportunity to add to the list.  I believe it is that seeking of knowledge and that seeking of self that allows us to experience true happiness.  Once we are able to love ourselves and to see all that we are able to offer to the world then we are able to experience peace and love.  Call me a hippie if you would like, but I now pass through almost every day and absorb my experiences and live for the moment as opposed to worrying about the past or concentrating strictly on the future.  I am able to literally stop and smell the roses or enjoy the life that is going on around me.  I would never want it to be any other way again because in my opinion this is the natural state of life…this is pure goodness and pure living.

I would love to hear your thoughts as always…on the subject at hand of on anything for that matter.  My friends near or far (whether in person or virtual) have been able to teach me and my appreciation goes far beyond your imagination.  I truly do hope that all of you are able to reach into yourselves and find your true happiness because regardless of what you think it is there.  I have put asterisks next to the ones that seem to be important in my life.  :0)

I have learned…

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

**I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned that you can keep going long after you think you can’t.

I’ve learned that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

**I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

**I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

**I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

**I’ve learned that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

**I’ve learned that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

**I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.


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17 Responses to Day 99 Question 99

  1. alchurchill says:

    Congratulations on getting this far with your postings. I made it to around day 130 something of my 1 year challenge of posting one positive post a day for a year! I didn’t think I’d pass two weeks, but I did. I have a lot of catching up, but who know’s you may inspire me to keep going!? Thanks.

  2. rich says:

    in general, yes, but not today. i was in a contest sponsored by called the amazon breakthrough novel award. it started out with 10,000 titles. after a few rounds, it was down to 500 and i was still in it. today they cut down to 100, but now i’m out. i expected as such because i rushed my entry to meet a deadline and hadn’t revised as carefully as needed. however, the bright spot is that i’ll get a full review from publisher’s weekly magazine. that should be very helpful.

    so – happy? usually, just not so much today. in a few hours i’ll be good again.

  3. miss p says:

    Oh my goodness…..congratulations definitely. Tough question to answer. Actually I was thinking about this last night as I was driving home with an old friend sort of catching up as we hadn’t seen each other in over a year. My life has been so topsy turvey this last year, but I would have to say….yes I am coming to a place where I am figuring out my likes-dislikes and what makes me tick. Thanks for sharing these questions.

  4. globalmedscanada says:

    wow !!! u r very welcome !!! Nice post and great quotes !!! lot fo learn and learning is never ending process

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  6. Mojahed Reaz says:

    There was a Muslim scholar back in 1207 AD by the name of Jalal ad-Dīn Muḥammad Rūmī, you can look him up on Wikipedia. He was the one who introduced mysticism or Sufism in Islam. One of his quotes is, If you get bruised by being brushed against something, then how do you suppose to get polished?”. That is what I see in you that you learned your lessons the hard way with bruises all over but the inside is shining now, for bruises are temporary and the lessons learned are forever. Keep the energy flowing, flow with the energy,spread the energy and light up everyone you come across. I am happy for you!
    About your questioning, I am going to tell you something strange, we are all pre programed so if you notice something, that means you were suppose to notice it and you already have the answer that is why the question has risen in your mind, meanwhile you will see that other people will go through their entire life with something and it will never occur to them why did they keep on doing the same thing over and over again without ever wondering why? Because they do not have the answer in them, so the question will never arise. That is how Socrates taught his disciples.
    Till we share again,

  7. Anastasia says:


    Almost 100?! Whoohooo.. You’ve stuck with writing daily (I only lasted 60ish). Good for you 🙂

  8. I so agree with you, If you are unhappy something needs to change, so make a decision and change things around you. Congrats!

  9. Abby Rae says:

    When I finally decided to change my mind, it changed my life~ awesome post!

  10. Fabulous post! I’ll need to think about what I’ve learned for thiis day! Great list! Thanks ~`Deborah

  11. Great post! Life is learning. I always like hearing about lessons learned. “I believe we are here for a reason, as each day unfolds we see less of the shadows and more of the sun.” –Author unknown

  12. bhuwanchand says:

    Looking forward to the 100th entry… I am sure it will be as good as the last 99 or maybe even better. All the subjects you have touched upon in your blog are the one which normally we all think about in our day-to-day life. You are doing a great job, keep it up. God bless you.

    ” A wise man established in self should not unsettle the mind of ignorant attached to action, but should get them to perform all their duties, duly performing his own duties” Bhagavad Gita (3.26)

  13. I know that your 100th entry will be just as amazing as the previous ones! You have come so far from where you started. I look forward to more of the journey with you!

  14. chris9911 says:

    hmmm, sounds like you are too happy. I have this burning desire to BRING YOU DOWN! lol. here goes,

    I once was a living a happy clam life, as a single, just like you right now and no desire to settle down.
    I was too comfortable and too happy, so
    Something happens and I get married…dang stress
    Things got easier and was getting too comfortable and happy again, so
    something happens and I have a loud kid…dang stress
    Things got easier again and I was getting too comfortable and happy, so
    something happens and i have another loud kid…dang stress

    Just pointing out some pattern that may alarm you 🙂 Somebody higher up does not want to see you happy and comfortable for too long 😦

  15. granbee says:

    I have learned that if I do not properly respect and care for myself as a child of God, I cannot possibly treat others as children of their Creator!

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