Day 167 Question 167:
Do you care what people think about you?
When I was teaching Teen Outreach Program classes I did an activity with my students in which I asked a question and they had to hold up a sheet of paper that said either Strongly Agree, Agree, Disagree, Strongly Disagree. I asked various questions about peer pressure and body image. When I got to the question, “I care what people think about me” every single one of my students held up the paper that said STRONGLY DISAGREE. This was something that was brought up many more times throughout the year. I would have students tell me that so and so said this or that about them and my response was always, “I thought you didn’t care what other people thought about you.” Most of them would pretty much stumble over their words after I said that.
We can all say until we are blue in the face that we don’t care about what people think about us but come the end of the day that just isn’t the truth. We all care what people think about us…at least we care what some people think about us. It is important to be independent and to be confident and (I believe) caring about what others think about you is not a sign of weakness. Why is it bad to want to be liked or to be looked at in a positive light? Of course this would probably be dependent on the company we are keeping in the moment and who’s opinions we are looking to for approval. I care very much about what my parents think about me. I don’t believe I have molded myself to be what they would like me to be (actually I know I haven’t…considering I am tattooed and have pushed the envelope far too many times to count) but I do want to make them proud. I want them to believe in me and their opinions matter. These are the two people that gave me life…I do believe that what they think about me does hold some bit of importance.
This is one of those tricky questions that a lot of people get hung up on. For me I care entirely too much what people think about me. I try not to but it almost feels like natural instinct for me. I care about what people that hardly know me think…hell I have cared what fellow readers of this blog have thought and these are people that are thousands of miles away that I will probably never meet. I am working on caring more about what I think as opposed to what everyone else thinks but it is not a quick fix. It is not a switch and suddenly all is different. I am the same as my mother. She is 72 years old and she admits she worries about what other people think about her. We both know that some people’s opinions of us hold no real significance but we still care. We are both just two very sensitive women….which I think is has its positives and negatives. I guess I am just over so many people dictating what is right and wrong with the way we think or how we handle our emotions. What I feel is what I feel. I can tell people I think or feel a certain way to appease them but I know I would just be lying. Maybe it is not an appealing quality to be hung up on what people think about me but it is just a part of who I am. In my opinion, it shows that I care. If someone has a way of ridding myself of this I would love to hear suggestions. :0)