Day 130 Question 130:
Is there really a difference between right and wrong?
Is there a difference between right and wrong? If so, then who makes the rules? Government? Our parents? People of a higher social or financial status? Teachers? Police? Science? Evolution? Creationism? If you have read any of my blog you already know I am this highly independent thinker that just does not want to be molded by anyone (not saying I never am…I just go back and forth with a lot of things because there are sooooo many things to consider). I question EVERYTHING. People can tell me something until they are blue in the face but in a lot of situations I still question the validity of some things.
I believe that nothing is 100% true unless I have personally experienced it….hence my skepticism on Christianity. I go with what I feel….I admire those that have convictions and believe in God but for me there is no connection because there has been no personal experience with God. I shy away from politics because I believe politicians are trying to mold people to think their way…some may and some may not…but who decides which way is right and which is wrong? Some political leaders were raised Christian and believe strongly in the bible so they truly believe abortion is wrong and gay relationships and marriage is wrong while others may not have a religious background and may be more liberal thinking. How can one person decide what is best for the majority? It seems quite unfair. We do not embrace our individuality and our differences but instead we try to mold people to us….it is almost the natural way of people sometimes (myself included)…I have tried to persuade people to take on my point of view. Is that right? Is that wrong? I keep going back over and over again thinking about how I do not understand how we can ever speak for the whole. Like I said, how does the President determine what is right for the entire nation? How does Bill O’Reilly sit on the couch of The View and say that Muslims were responsible for 9/11….it was a few that were responsible…how can he blame an entire population? Why do some people clump ALL black people together and assume they are all thugs? Why do some black people have resentment toward ALL white people because of slavery when it was not the fault of ALL white people. We tend to blame all for the actions of some. Is that fair? Is that right? Is that wrong?
I believe we are all pulled to believe what we feel is right and we all have our own paths that feel natural to us but we live in this society that does not allow us to be who were are 100% openly and honestly because we have soooooo many guidelines to follow and soooooo many people telling us what is right and what is wrong? I do understand that there are some things such as murder, child molestation, spousal abuse, hate crimes, etc. that in my opinion are unquestionably wrong but there are other things such as gay marriage/rights, abortion, child rearing, education, etc. where are I cannot wrap my brain around how people can determine what is right and what is wrong for the whole. Every household is so very different. Every person feels love in their own capacity and every parent wants to do what they believe is best for their child. Where is the line drawn of where other people are able to determine what is right and wrong for the individual, for the family, for the cultural group or for the gender?
My dad keeps popping into my head. I love my dad with everything in me but there is a lot I don’t say because I know he will get frustrated, he will shake his head and he will tell me I am wrong….as I have done the same thing to him before. My father is agnostic just like I am but he does not believe gays should be married. He believes marriage is meant to be a union between a man and a woman. I disagree and believe that marriage is supposed to be a union between two people that love each other. Which of us is right and which of us is wrong? People could swarm this blog entry with answers and tell me that the bible says this or the government says that but why is it that certain people have the power to be right? Is it because of their political status or social status or financial status? My dad believes that democrats are allowing the government to control us. Maybe he is right. I believe that regardless of politics we are all controlled. We are all swayed by someone else’s thinking. If someone is going to continually tell me that I am wrong, I am going to continually ask why? Eventually someone is going to run out of answers and personally I have learned that the existence of right and wrong is man-made. I believe as an entire world we have built so many guidelines and so many rules and we have become so detailed and descriptive and politically correct that we are no longer living as human beings but instead living as robots. We are following the lead of certain people…and these people are constantly changing. My dad is Republican and I am undecided of my political stance…I tend to saw more toward the left. I admit to being terrified to saying those words to my father because on so many occasions I have heart him rant about how horrible the democrats are. I am avoiding telling him this because I already know the heated debate we will get into about who is right and wrong on the issues when in my head I believe neither of us is right or wrong. Government has taken too much control of us as people no matter what political party we follow.
In schools there are guidelines. There are rules and there are regulations and that is understandable. But when are there enough rules? When are there too few? I worked as the Education Manager for a nonprofit in a small, poverty-stricken area. I would work with teens and talk to them about all sorts of issues…my program’s goal was to reach out to teens and help them through all of the issues they face. We all know what teens face…self-esteem issues, sexual pressure, popularity pressure/status, etc. I talked about a great deal of issues but there was always someone limiting me. There was always someone telling me that I could not talk about this or talk about that. My mouth was sewn shut on so many occasions because I needed to make sure I was being politically correct at all times. Meanwhile these young girls and boys are learning only half (if not less) about what the world is really like. By stating that certain things are right and certain things are wrong…we limit ourselves….we limit the future generations. I was not allowed to discuss contraception with students because the county in which I resided supported abstinence only education. The county spoke for me….I had no choice. I believe kids these days need to learn about contraception because teen pregnancy is becoming an epidemic and that is terrifying. I believe it should (hands down) be taught at home first…but realistically we know that does not happen so I believe someone needs to give them the information in order for them to make a well-informed decision. We think we are protecting them when in truth (in my opinion) we are doing more harm than good).
This blog is titled In My Opinion because I KNOW that people will not always agree with me and there is absolutely nothing conclusive about my answers. I may go on rants but I will NEVER tell people they are wrong. What power or proof do I have to tell people they are wrong? In the same though…I cannot tell them they are right either. I came into this world as one person and I will leave this life as one person. I may have similarities to others but I will never ever know if what we experience is exactly the same so I feel that the concepts of right and wrong are almost impossible to measure. Every person on this earth has a different experience and different thoughts and feelings for their own reasons. Again, call me a dreamer if you wish but it is how I feel and I can no longer abandon how I feel. I want to live through what I feel as opposed to allowing my ego control me. Once I do that I know I have given up all of my power.
As usual, you know I want to know your opinions and thoughts. I have included below a video that Ellen Degeneres had posted on her Facebook page (as many of you know I loooove Ellen). I, personally, am not a big fan of Obama. I just have this gut questioning gut feeling about him…BUT I love everything about what he has done for the LGBT community (even if it is just for votes). I believe ALL people should be free and the idea of separate but equal is absolutely ridiculous. Thank you again for taking the time to ready my long-winded thoughts. :0)