Day 82 Question 82:
Is revenge sometimes justified? Do you believe in an eye for an eye?
As strange as it sounds, this is a subject I have thought about a lot lately. I guess that would be due to everything I have been reading and watching…plus a certain work circumstance. Honestly, I do not believe in an eye for an eye. I find it to be just a simple solution to try to brush whatever the problem is under the rug. I have been reading a book called Half the Sky (amazing book-I recommend everyone read it) and it deals with the issue of human trafficking/sex trade. The stories in the book paint images of horrific acts being performed on women…gang rape, mutilation, beatings. It is heartbreaking to think that some females are born in certain countries and their destiny is to live a life of torture. With this being said, I do not believe the answer is to brutally beat or murder the person/people responsible. I just cannot see (and this is strictly my opinion) what that solves. If anything it opens the door for bigger problems. In the book a woman was gang raped and beaten and in her country the normal next occurrence is for the woman to commit suicide. In this case she did not but instead she fought back and she went to the authorities and she demanded recognition of the problem by government authorities. The man responsible for her rapings and beatings sat in a court room filled with dozens of other women he had also raped and victimized. The women grew angrier and angrier and formed a circle around the man and stabbed him thousands of times and cut off his penis. By the end of it all he was just a pile of blood and guts strewn all over the floor. I completely understand the anger and pain these women are experiencing but their actions of an “eye for an eye” have now caused all of them to live a life in hiding. This man that they killed had an “army” behind them and they were out to seek revenge. These women now may never live a life of any kind of freedom. Trust me, I am not condoning any actions of this horrible man that did these things to these innocent women, I just believe there are other ways than violence to solve the problem.
For a very long time I supported the death penalty. I supported it because my father does and I guess I just felt like it was the right way of thinking. The more I studied and became educated and found my beliefs, the more I realized that I really don’t support the death penalty. It seems to me like the government/police officials are performing the same sort of act that got the perpetrator thrown in jail. I just don’t believe two wrongs make a right. Killing is killing no matter what the circumstance may be. I think our legal system in this country needs a big change and honestly a part of me thinks we are so deep in the hole that most people have given up trying to change. Our country (and so many other countries) have become far too violent and I just can’t condone this type of violence on any level. As cliché as it may sound, violence is never the answer. I know I may have that peace, love and happiness hippie mentality but I just don’t understand why violence has become the answer for so many? I cannot be convinced that it is ever really the best strategic move for someone to make. In my opinion violence and believing that an “eye for an eye” is the right way of thinking just makes more and more people ignorant. Unfortunately, these sort of ways of thinking are teaching people ignorance without even realizing it.
I have said before that if someone were to harm my family that I would undoubtedly take them out but truth be told that would not be what I would do. I know a lot of rage would build up inside of me and the thoughts would be there but I would rather someone rot in a 4-walled bare room by their lonesome and die from their own craziness than to kill them myself or have them killed (even if it was an execution). The latter just seems like too easy of a way out and in my opinion it gives complete control and power to the perpetrator. He may be losing his life but he is going out knowing that the government and the people stooped to the same level he did in the end.
What I am about to talk about it completely off the beaten path or murders and death. An eye for an eye does not always have to be on such horrific scales. I work at a restaurant part-time and I love it but there are a few people there that are just straight up slackers. There are two in particular that just do the bare minimum to get by. They both portray senses of entitlement and in my opinion they just act selfish and it is just a job to them (meanwhile one is in his mid 30’s and the other is in her 40’s and they are destined to be servers the rest of their lives). The job requires a good amount of prep work by the staff in order for each day/night to run smoothly. I came to work on Wednesday night after working my day job and nothing was prepped. I was working with the female I just spoke of. I asked her why nothing was prepped and she told me that the male I spoke of left her high and dry and she wasn’t going to prep anything and that he needed to learn his lesson. Neither one of them saw the big picture and realized that they were fucking over the ENTIRE restaurant. They were playing this silly game of getting back at each other and never realized that the owner and all of the staff are the ones that suffer when nothing is done. I start prepping for the next day so it would be ready because we are coming into the summer and it can become a madhouse there. If you aren’t prepared you are just asking for chaos. While I was prepping she just kept telling me how I just needed to leave it for him and blah blah blah. I told her that was not how I worked. The best interest is for the restaurant and for the owner to have a successful business. The picture is so much larger than either of them were choosing to see. When items are not prepped people have to wait longer for their food which in turn could mean the loss of future business and we all know how word of mouth can spread like wildfire. It can be a quick spiral down…even if it starts with something as small as prepping items for salads.
By no means am I perfect. I have moments of anger and flying off the handle too quickly but since I have starting meditating and chosen to take a whole different outlook on life I have come to realize that holding grudges and holding onto anger is far too toxic. An eye for an eye solves nothing…even in the most horrific of cases. We all are supposed to hold our power and when we stoop to the level of the accused then all we are doing is handing all of our power over to them.
If you have never seen it, I definitely recommend checking out the movie Gandhi. I have inserted the entire youtube video below. Again, I know to many I may sound like I am full of fluff and my ideals are not realistic but if we do not have some people to spread the peace and love can you imagine what this world would be like…it is already headed in that direction. I have been part of the problem for too long and I am over with that. I want to be part of the solution.